Insecurity will come when you compare yourself to another person, and in a world where we constantly look at other’s “highlight reels” on social media, it’s never been easier to fall into self-doubt.
Despite these temptations to compare, don’t try to be someone you’re not. Be yourself. Realize that who God designed you to be is not a mistake.
You need to stop comparing and start living in your own skin, so here are six ways you can overcome the temptation of comparison:
1. Know your identity in Christ
You have a relationship with Christ. I have found a direct correlation between my security in my relationship with Jesus and my security with other people. Security is what happens when I’m focused on what God thinks about me. When you truly find out how God made you to be…you will never want to be anyone else or do anything else.
2. Concentrate on your abilities
What are you good at doing? Make a list of your good qualities. You probably have more than you think you do. In times of feeling insecure we often forget who we are and how God has shaped us through experiences of life. Imagine telling a family member or a friend they aren’t gifted? So why would we believe this about ourself? So make a list and keep it accessible.
3. Never stop growing
Seek wisdom from other leaders who have gone before you. I love that the Bible is full of leaders who felt unqualified and who were lacking the skills and education to do the job. When I feel overwhelmed or insecure, I read the stories like those of Gideon, Moses, Joseph, David, or Joshua repeatedly to supply me with great encouragement.
4. Discover God’s perspective
Insecurity rearranges everything you see and hear. So maybe the chaos you’re experiencing is because you are listening to the wrong voices or you are focusing your eyes on the wrong things. If God holds everything together then being held by God means you should be the most secure person. Focus on Christ and experience your foundation becoming firmer.
5. Get grounded in confidence
Confidence is not what You do with God but what God does with you…Don’t limit God by your insecurity. Confidence is what sustains you. Confidence is what keeps you grounded. The root of confidence is “confide.” Confiding in Jesus is a practice that will not only maken you secure but get you closer to Jesus.
6. Find people who compliment your weaknesses
In a healthy church or organization, strength comes from different people. So don’t be afraid to ask for help. There are people who are better at doing things you don’t feel comfortable doing or not skilled at doing things you don’t feel comfortable doing. It’s not a sign of weakness to get others involved. It’s actually a sign of strength and security.