A thriving marriage and family life is all about selfless living. The book of Colossians gives insight to how spouses, parents and children should treat each other:
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly. Children, always obey your parents, for this pleases the Lord. (Colossians 3:18-20)
Notice the instruction is all about our actions towards others. Colossians speaks to love, patience and listening. Unfortunately, our world is self-centered, which is in stark contrast to a biblical family. Instead of thinking how we can meet our spouse’s needs, we’re taught that it’s about me and how can others meet my needs. A strong family thinks outwardly. Obviously, this is easier said than done, however when everyone is looking out for one another, everyone’s needs are being met. When you’re putting your spouse first and your spouse is putting you first, both are first. It seems counterintuitive that putting your spouse first will in turn meet all your needs, but it’s God’s way and it works. It should be stated that it works when both are committed to it.
A strong marriage is the foundation for healthy upbringing of children.
When you can model a selfless love towards one another, your children are watching and internalizing what is happening. Those little eyes are watching how dad loves mom and how mom treats dad. That’s their first impression of their heavenly Father’s love and most likely how they will end up treating people as they grow.
- Pray for strong, selfless marriages.
- Pray that “me first” thinking would be replaced with “you first” thinking.
- Pray that children will gain a godly understanding of who their heavenly Father is as a result of godly parents.